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How to Get Rid of Ghosts



Tis the season of ghosts and haunted houses, right? But, if you have ever had your heart broken, you know that ghosts and hauntings can happen anytime of the year. Just like when we were kids and used to hold our breath as we drove by a cemetery, a broken heart can have you holding your breath when you drive by any place where shared memories were made. I am happy to say that I no longer hold my breath over such things, cemeteries or shared memories. Yesterday I was reassured of my healed wounds when I found an old journal with letters written to a past loves.

As I look back, I can recognize now that what I thought was real love was not always real. And after every break up, I would go through sadness, anger, forgiveness and gratitude.These didn’t always arrive in that order. I have to admit that sometimes I was the one that needed forgiveness the most. What was most helpful? Writing a thank you letter for all the lessons I learned through the relationships. And through gratitude, exorcisms were performed.


But first, there was this sequence of events:


I tried to understand the why and how of it all.

I analyzed every conversation leading up to the ultimate end.

I cursed them.

I questioned my own actions.

I cursed them.

I told myself I should have seen it coming.

I cursed them.

I cried.

I threw tantrums.

I drank.

I slept.

I cursed them.

I wrote them a letter.

I cried.

I thanked them.

I forgave them.